In the Welcome Module, we will cover what to expect in The Response Roadmap, how to get the most out of the course, what your role is as a parent when your child is struggling (hint: it is huge!) and how to know if what you are doing is working (it's not what you think). After this module, you will know how to best use the course, understand why YOU are so important and how to measure your success. Get your own The Response Roadmap PDF and Worksheet to build your individualized plan as you go!
In Step 1: Recognize we will explore what comes up for you when your child is struggling. By the end of this module, you will have 3 concrete tools to increase access to your CALM in the moment and you will have a deeper understanding of your (often intense) reactions to your child's behaviors and emotions, which will give you a greater sense of CONFIDENCE moving forward.
In Step 2: Regulate to Reconnect to Your Values, we will put concrete, actionable tools in your toolbox that you can use in a crisis moment to help you access your CALM, whenever, wherever, no matter how tricky the situation. From there, you will build a tool to help you CONNECT- both the parent you want to be and your child- in the toughest moments.
Step 3: Respond...Effectively is all about getting you from that knee-jerk (normal, but unhelpful) reaction to a place of measured, thoughtful response- all in about 15 seconds. You will learn and practice Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) Emotion Coaching so you can leave this module with scripts to use with your child for the toughest of conversations (yes, actual scripts). You will also learn a framework to figure out how to support your child in concrete ways. After this Step 3, you will finally be able to answer the burning parent question: "What do I say and what do I do?" with CONFIDENCE.
Because you can't Parent on an Empty Tank. Unlike other lectures on "self-care", Step 4: Refuel, is non-negotiable, imperative and actually helps your child. In this step, we will talk about ways to plug the holes in your bucket, refill your tank, set boundaries and move through resentment so you can use your new skills and show up as the CALM, CONFIDENT and CONNECTED parent you want to be for your teen.
In our final step, Step 5: Reflect and Repeat, we will look back on how things went- with kindness and compassion- and explore what, if anything, you would want to do differently. You will learn how to "Circle Back" when things go sideways (think: foot in mouth moments) and then we will talk about how to hold the hope and keep going.
In this brief section, we wrap up our work together. You will find (a LOT of) Resources and References with additional ways to access support and more info on how to dive deeper into each topic we covered in the course.